What effect does the way we parent have on our children? Is there a correlation between our parenting, discipline and teaching of our kids and their learning? In this episode Hannah Alexander explains how important the way we parent our young kids is in their development, their mental health, the way they see themselves and the world.
The conversation covers so much including:
- Parenting styles
- If boundaries are necessary for little kids
- What is respectful parenting?
- Should a parent child relationship be like a friendship?
- Do we need to ask permission before we change our baby's nappy?
- When should we start thinking about parenting styles and how we plan to parent our children?
- What is attachment parenting?
- What does the research say about sleep and routines?
- Why is it important we listen and recognise our children's feelings?
- How should we praise our kids and why?
- How do we get our kids to listen?
- What about when our child does the wrong thing?
- Are time outs and sticker charts helpful parenting tools?
- Are there specific things we should try to avoid saying to our kids and if so, what we can say instead?
- What does it mean to be a reflective parent?
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And to read more about this topic Hannah has shared the books, studies and articles she’s mentioned in the episode here:
Studies:
Mueller CM, Dweck CS. Praise for intelligence can undermine children's motivation and performance. J Pers Soc Psychol. 1998 Jul;75(1):33-52. doi: 10.1037//0022-3514.75.1.33. PMID: 9686450.
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/9686450/
Deković, M., & Janssens, J. M. (1992). Parents' child-rearing style and child's sociometric status. Developmental Psychology, 28(5), 925–932. https://doi.org/10.1037/0012-1649.28.5.925
https://psycnet.apa.org/record/1993-01055-001
Books:
Calm Parents, Happy Kids: The Secrets of Stress-free Parenting
Link: https://www.penguin.com.au/books/calm-parents-happy-kids-9780091955205
The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did)
By Phillip Perry
No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame
By Janet Lansbury
Link: https://www.janetlansbury.com/recommended-category/by-janet-lansbury/
Simplicity Parenting
By Kim John Payne Lisa M. Ross
Link: https://www.penguin.com.au/books/simplicity-parenting-9780345507983
The Power of Showing Up: How parental presence shapes who our kids become
By Daniel J Siegal and Tina Payne Bryson
Articles:
Authorative Parenting Style, parentingscience.com
Link: https://parentingscience.com/authoritative-parenting-style/
Becoming Attached, The Atlantic
Link: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/1990/02/becoming-attached/308966/
No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame, 9 Guidelines
Link: https://www.janetlansbury.com/2010/04/no-bad-kids-toddler-discipline-without-shame-9-guidelines/
AAIMHI position statement on Controlled Crying
AAIMHI position statement on Responding to Infant Cues
AAIMHI position statement on Responding to Time Out
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