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Hannah Alexander - Responsive Parenting

What effect does the way we parent have on our children? Is there a correlation between our parenting, discipline and teaching of our kids and their learning? In this episode Hannah Alexander explains how important the way we parent our young kids is in their development, their mental health, the way they see themselves and the world.


The conversation covers so much including:

- Parenting styles

- If boundaries are necessary for little kids

- What is respectful parenting?

- Should a parent child relationship be like a friendship?

- Do we need to ask permission before we change our baby's nappy?

- When should we start thinking about parenting styles and how we plan to parent our children?

- What is attachment parenting?

- What does the research say about sleep and routines?

- Why is it important we listen and recognise our children's feelings?

- How should we praise our kids and why?

- How do we get our kids to listen?

- What about when our child does the wrong thing?

- Are time outs and sticker charts helpful parenting tools?

- Are there specific things we should try to avoid saying to our kids and if so, what we can say instead?

- What does it mean to be a reflective parent?


To connect with Hannah, find her at:

- Website – http://www.ouryearoutdoors.com/

- IG - https://www.instagram.com/ouryear_outdoors/

- FB - https://www.facebook.com/ouryearoutdoors

- Subscriber newsletter - https://ouryearoutdoors.ck.page/8287130b5d


And to read more about this topic Hannah has shared the books, studies and articles she’s mentioned in the episode here:


Studies:


Mueller CM, Dweck CS. Praise for intelligence can undermine children's motivation and performance. J Pers Soc Psychol. 1998 Jul;75(1):33-52. doi: 10.1037//0022-3514.75.1.33. PMID: 9686450.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/9686450/


Deković, M., & Janssens, J. M. (1992). Parents' child-rearing style and child's sociometric status. Developmental Psychology, 28(5), 925–932. https://doi.org/10.1037/0012-1649.28.5.925

https://psycnet.apa.org/record/1993-01055-001


Books:


Calm Parents, Happy Kids: The Secrets of Stress-free Parenting

By Laura Markham

Link: https://www.penguin.com.au/books/calm-parents-happy-kids-9780091955205


The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did)

By Phillip Perry

Link: https://www.penguin.com.au/books/the-book-you-wish-your-parents-had-read-and-your-children-will-be-glad-that-you-did-9780241251027


No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline without Shame

By Janet Lansbury

Link: https://www.janetlansbury.com/recommended-category/by-janet-lansbury/


Simplicity Parenting

By Kim John Payne Lisa M. Ross

Link: https://www.penguin.com.au/books/simplicity-parenting-9780345507983


The Power of Showing Up: How parental presence shapes who our kids become

By Daniel J Siegal and Tina Payne Bryson

Link: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/562899/the-power-of-showing-up-by-daniel-j-siegel-md-and-tina-payne-bryson-phd/


Articles:


Authorative Parenting Style, parentingscience.com

Link: https://parentingscience.com/authoritative-parenting-style/


Becoming Attached, The Atlantic

Link: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/1990/02/becoming-attached/308966/


No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame, 9 Guidelines

Link: https://www.janetlansbury.com/2010/04/no-bad-kids-toddler-discipline-without-shame-9-guidelines/


AAIMHI position statement on Controlled Crying

Link: https://www.aaimhi.org/key-issues/position-statements-and-guidelines/AAIMHI-Position-paper-1-Controlled-crying.pdf


AAIMHI position statement on Responding to Infant Cues

Link: https://www.aaimhi.org/key-issues/position-statements-and-guidelines/AAIMHI-Position-paper-2-(2016)-Responding-to-infant-cues-(1).pdf


AAIMHI position statement on Responding to Time Out

Link: https://www.aaimh.org.au/key-issues/position-statements-and-guidelines/AAIMHI-Position-paper-3-Time-out.pdf



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